I'm a little late on commenting here, but I just wanted to add that I've thought about this many, many times. I simply can't imagine myself saying "til death do us part" to a man who believes in ECT, and I've avoided some otherwise wonderful guys due to this uneasiness.
On the other hand, I do really wish to marry a man who shares my belief in Christ as Messiah, the truth of the Gospel, and other mainstream Christian doctrines. Finding a twenty-something, non-ECT Christian man (much less one who is kind and shares interests with me!) is much
easier said than done!
Sometimes, I toy with the idea of joining a convent and just living out my Universalist tendencies in peaceful singleness -- but then I remember that Catholics are ECT, too!
Ladybug, I will be praying for strength and peace for you, your father, and the rest of your family. I thought I'd share with you some words by Max Lucado, which you may have read before. Nonetheless, they gave me such comfort when I read his Travelling Light
as an angst-ridden twelve-year-old who knew nothing but ECT. Although Lucado is a mainstream Christian writer/pastor and believes in traditional hell, I found these words immensely comforting (and I still do!)What of those who die with no faith? My husband never prayed. My grandpa never worshiped. My mother never opened a Bible, much less her heart. What about the one who never believed?
How do we know he didn’t?
Who among us is privy to a person’s final thoughts? Who among us knows what transpires in those final moments? Are you sure no prayer was offered? Eternity can bend the proudest knees. Could a person stare into the yawning canyon of death without whispering a plea for mercy? And could our God, who is partial to the humble, resist it?
He couldn’t on Calvary. The confession of the thief on the cross was both a first and final one. But Christ heard it. Christ received it. Maybe you never heard your loved one confess Christ, but who’s to say Christ didn’t?
We don’t know the thoughts of a dying soul, but we know this. We know our God is a good God. He is “not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance.” 2 Peter 3:9 NKJV
He wants your loved one in heaven more than you do. And he usually gets what he wants.
Prayers and blessings to you, Ladybug,
P.S. If anybody does
know of any nice, twenty-something Christian Universalist boys out there.... you all know where to find me. Just sayin'.