Being in disobedience & an enemy of God is not what He considers “behaving properly”, but merely a necessary momentary means to a completely undeserved & glorious goal so amazing that it is beyond what we have ever thought or imagined. Without these experiences we would never even know what “behaving properly” means. We’d be like Adam & Eve before the fall, like totally clueless zombies. That’s one “Calvinistic” URist Determinist take on the topic, anyway.
9:14What shall we say then? Is there unrighteousness with God? God forbid. 15For he saith to Moses, I will have mercy on whom I will have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I will have compassion. 16So then it is not of him that willeth, nor of him that runneth, but of God that sheweth mercy. 17For the scripture saith unto Pharaoh, Even for this same purpose have I raised thee up, that I might shew my power in thee, and that my name might be declared throughout all the earth. 18Therefore hath he mercy on whom he will have mercy, and whom he will he hardeneth.19Thou wilt say then unto me, Why doth he yet find fault? For who hath resisted his will?
For God has consigned all people to disobedience so that he may show mercy to them all. (Rom.11:32)
7What then? What Israel was seeking, it failed to obtain, but the elect did. The others were hardened, 8as it is written: “God gave them a spirit of stupor, eyes that could not see, and ears that could not hear, to this very day.”